Wedding planning is notoriously stressful. The list of things to do is endless, and often grows as quickly as you can tick jobs off. But this is not why you chose to get married; you wanted a day that was going to stay with you for a lifetime and signify your love for one another. If there’s one thing you take away from this blog post, it’s this: don’t lose sight of that fact. Nothing is more important during the planning process.
Here at Bridal Hair in Hampshire, we see the wedding-morning jitters first-hand. We experience them with each of our brides, and we learn, every day, new tips and recommendations on how to ensure things run smoothly (as far as is possible!). We’ve compiled a list here so that all our future brides can share the wisdom of those now happily married.
The wedding is not everything.
This may seem like an unusual one to kick off the list, but it’s an essential one. Just because the wedding planning may be at the forefront of your mind most of the time, it doesn’t mean that it’s all you should be concentrating on. To keep your energy levels up, you need to make time to let off some steam. Try something new, or simply indulge in the hobbies that make you feel happiest and most relaxed. Following this one simple step will keep you fresh and motivated. And don’t beat yourself up for taking time out! We can guarantee that things will get done and organised quicker if you’re coming at them with a clear mind.
Get enough sleep.
Sticking to a happy, healthy routine during the wedding planning process will also help with keeping your mind clear. Mental organisation will help you dedicate time to specific tasks, stopping the to-do list overwhelming you. You are bound to have a few nights every now and then when a niggle worms its way into your brain and you just can’t shake it. The worry builds into panic, and then you find yourself scrolling through your phone at 3am trying to find the number for a caterer you heard someone mention two weeks ago (contact me for any recommendations!). Instead of falling into the cycle, keep a notepad and pen on your bedside table so you can jot down any concerns that strike you once the lights are out. Enough sleep = better productivity + better mood; it’s as simple as that!
Don’t forget there are two of you.
Only 50% of the work belongs to you. Of course, there’s some wiggle room in there, but the point is not to try to take all of the work onto your own shoulders. Your partner knows you better than anyone, so can make decisions in the planning that will comfortably suit both of you. Be flexible, be level-headed, and lay down some vital points at the beginning. That way you will both have somewhere to start and no one ends up feeling out of the loop.
Appreciate the little things.
At the end of every day that you have spent planning or organising, sit down and write a list of what you have accomplished. Focus on the positives, and don’t get bogged down on the things you didn’t quite manage. There’s always tomorrow! A tip for positive thinking that I picked up a few years ago was the process of writing down, at the end of every single day, three good things that had happened. However big or small, anything was a valid answer. The act of searching for these things in your memory brings them into focus. There is no reason at all that something similar cannot work for keeping wedding planning light, fun, and stress-free.
Put your thoughts into words, and share them.
It’s so important to be open. Keep niggles and thoughts to yourself and you risk things not unfolding as you’d like them to or, worse, the stress building up. You have so many different people around you to help; most important is your partner. Talk through any concerns you have about details and decisions to see if you can both put a Plan of Action together. After that, you have your chosen suppliers (with their years of wedding knowledge), wedding planning experts, and, of course, your friends, who may or may not have done it all before but will always have your best interests at heart.
Don’t get stuck on the small details.
One thing we hear time and time again from newly-wed couples is that although the tiny details of the day might seem numerous and important, they will rarely be the things that guests remember. Tick the big boxes first: the venue, the catering, the cake, the music, the flowers. But if the crockery, table cloths, and chair covers aren’t exactly what you had envisioned, try to keep the bigger picture in mind; these are the details that will fly under the radar for your guests. They want to see everyone happy, relaxed, and enjoying themselves, and they want to celebrate with you. Apart from that, nothing really matters.
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Featured image taken by Mark Tattersall Photography.